Physical boundaries in christian dating relationships

03-Aug-2016 12:00

Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far. Is it in our best interest to engage in these practices prior to marriage? For those who have adopted the standards of behavior endorsed by today’s entertainment industry, these are stupid questions.In fact, they are non-questions—meaning they just aren’t asked." Ever wonder what other Christians think about sex? What we found were some misconceptions and unclear boundaries. Tim's a Christian who believes wholeheartedly in abstinence.He says, "If you remain abstinent until marriage, you're sexually pure." But then he says, "I think petting's all right.Sadly, my immature and unhealthy desires predictably did much more harm than good. Maybe dating has been hard for you too, for these reasons or others. It’s enough to leave you like an eight-year-old, asking, “Mom, where do weddings come from?” The vision of marriage we see in God’s word — the beautiful, radical display of God’s infinite, persevering love for sinners — makes it worth it to date, and date well.Just ask any red-blooded male or female who has had a close encounter with Miss Good Looking or Mr. Hand-holding, hugging, kissing or any other similar contact can be oh so delightful.

" "5 Big Lies About Sex," "10 Ways to Practice Purity," "I Wish I Had Waited," and "Can You Become a Virgin Again? Well, we wanted to know what Christian students are saying about abstinence and sexual purity.A: I think different Christians have different opinions on what is appropriate and what is inappropriate in a dating relationship.In the early stages of dating you don’t want to get involved very much physically because if you do, it could overtake the relationship and you don’t spend time getting to know each other, which is the purpose of dating.Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance.From far too young, I longed for the affection, safety, and intimacy I anticipated with a wife. I experimented too much with our hearts and allowed things to go too far. And now my singleness is a regular reminder that I messed up, missed opportunities, or did it wrong. Maybe all the suggestions and advice you’ve collected has become a confusing mess of good-intentioned contradictions and ambiguity.

" "5 Big Lies About Sex," "10 Ways to Practice Purity," "I Wish I Had Waited," and "Can You Become a Virgin Again? Well, we wanted to know what Christian students are saying about abstinence and sexual purity.

A: I think different Christians have different opinions on what is appropriate and what is inappropriate in a dating relationship.

In the early stages of dating you don’t want to get involved very much physically because if you do, it could overtake the relationship and you don’t spend time getting to know each other, which is the purpose of dating.

Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance.

From far too young, I longed for the affection, safety, and intimacy I anticipated with a wife. I experimented too much with our hearts and allowed things to go too far. And now my singleness is a regular reminder that I messed up, missed opportunities, or did it wrong. Maybe all the suggestions and advice you’ve collected has become a confusing mess of good-intentioned contradictions and ambiguity.

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